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Comment on let us understand in order to move in by Nathan

Nathan — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 00:45:42 +0000

Thanks for the feedback. To explain:

If you only aim to forgive, it’s like ignoring a problem just to move on, just for the sake of keeping the relationship or to be agreeable. Often, saying “I forgive you” implies that the other side is wrong, even though no one ever wants to be wrong or do wrong.

But if you aim to truly understand, it’s like making a genuine effort to connect and see the issue from the other side’s end. This is much, much more difficult, but it’s only with understanding that we move further “into” a relationship rather than just moving “on.” Saying “I want to understand you because I love you” and then listening is a lot more effective for building closer relationships.

Today we want to forgive too often, understand too rarely.

I truly believe this concept is one of the top 10 things every human should live by, so I really hope this makes more sense to you now. Even though I agree that the language of this quote is a little stylized, simplified, and overly metaphorical, it seems as if most my readers understood it. One of my readers even sent me a personal message thanking me for writing it and discussing what an impact living by this concept has meant to her life.

Nonetheless, thank you for reading and as always, thank you for your honest feedback. I’ll always need it because too few people speak their mind.

Love Always,
<3 Nathan

Comment on On Peace, Love, and Harmony ~ Part I: Believing by nathan chow: » strangers are friends you’ve never met

nathan chow: » strangers are friends you’ve never met — Mon, 31 May 2010 03:24:04 +0000

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Comment on let us understand in order to move in by anon

anon — Wed, 12 May 2010 05:45:45 +0000

This quote makes no sense. Nathan, knock it off.

Comment on showing strangers ’round a familiar town by cjfleming

cjfleming — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 05:55:05 +0000

One of my friend’s was just telling me about how awesome her experience couch surfing was in Europe.

That’s crazy that you met a french girl while showing around the spanish girl.

Comment on showing strangers ’round a familiar town by Sima Kalmens

Sima Kalmens — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 09:46:51 +0000

Nathan, I am so happy that you had a positive CS experience, especially with a Spaniard. :) I could talk about differences between American and Spanish culture all day long.

Comment on On Peace, Love, and Harmony ~ Part I: Believing by Christopher LCP Mendes

Christopher LCP Mendes — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 05:36:32 +0000

Loved your personal story Nathan. Your writing skills are both extraordinary and hit at the soul. Great job. I hope to see the other parts of this series on my RSS feed soon.

Comment on loving vs being loved by Christopher LCP Mendes

Christopher LCP Mendes — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 23:39:25 +0000

I agree. Beautiful typography by the way!

Comment on airport hugs by Jenny

Jenny — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 22:50:10 +0000

Asian girls hug like that! We scream and run at each other excitedly.